Sunday, February 14, 2010

I am Distressed

I hate censors and believe people have right to know and right to say. But sometimes power corrupts and that is what I am seeing in my blog for last few weeks.

I love comments, whether they contradict my stand or they support my stand. I always enjoy a good debate, a good discussion, because ideas flow when we discuss and contradict. Therefore living up to that principle I had disabled word verification and enable anonymous commenting in my blog. However the response I got from few rotten one's has left me distressed and angry.

Being in Delhi, or India or any part of the world for that matter, we use slangs in our every day communication. Slangs are a part of culture, a manner by which we fume out anger or even shower love or crack a joke. It is good if it is used within limits and within a specific circle of people. However, it loses its taste when it misused, i.e., used in public forum where things are being discussed between people who have never met each other. This writer also have many juiciest of slangs up in his tongue but he seldom used them while discussing some important or not so important things with some unknown. This applies to blogs also.

As a blogger reading others blog I strive to keep my comments withing the limits of decency, and I also expect that people should follow the same while commenting here in my blogs. Even if I use an abuse I never direct it towards a particular person, it just forms part of a general statement, but as far as possible I try to avoid the language which I used amongst my friends.

But for the last few days I am getting dose of the medicine which I didn't applied to anyone. I was getting Anonymous comments on many of my articles, but the one I got on my post related to Tiger Conservation has crossed all the limits of decency and has forced me to enable moderation.

The person in question (I can safely assume he is not a gentleman) firstly posts, as anonymous, comment "NICE" for which he gets my response "Thanks but please give me your name". A good conversation always warrants knowledge of name. And In response I get a good dose of Delhi's Slang which then is followed by a slang-fest. I have to bring his family in the question.

This person without any shred of doubt is a coward, he was first using an Airtel Connection of Delhi and when I point out the same this smartass began using proxy server to post comments and asking me which country he is from, as if he thinks he is the only intelligent person remained in this world.

It seems that he has taken a good record of me and has put me in his reading and is having a real sick fun of abusing me in this public forum. Now he is using the name of 'Dick' to comment since I have disabled the anonymous commenting. His comment on last post has being deleted, it seems that he wishes me to get me to his rotten level. I will not oblige him.

Now for the records, if there is tiniest possibility that I know this guy/gal in person then he/she can safely presume goodbye to our friendship is there was any.

I follow net-etiquettes and I also presume others to follow the same while commenting. Slang is good, but it is a double edged sword, be careful while using it in public forum.

"REPUTATION" might be a 10 letter word but it takes life time to earn it, and just a spur of a moment to lose it.

Thanks
Tarun


18 comments:

Shrinidhi Hande said...

Those who are determined to spam are unlikely to be discouraged by this post.

lot of bloggers are getting these harmless but equally useless anonymous comments. Not sure what their motive is. Comment moderation is fine, but be sure to moderate them on a regular (if possible daily) basis

Gyanban said...

Hey buddy don't get - too affected -either ways - by abuse or praise...though abuse should not be tolerated., but let it not take your peace of mind away. not worth it.
Likewise, comments like awesome dude, you rock,super post..on most occasions don't really mean anything.So take it with a pinch of salt.

Tarun Mitra said...

@ Shrinidhi..I agree, they wont be, but I don't think u were able to understand the gravity of the matter...he wasn't selling me viagra or something, he was straightforward abusing me and that too in hindi..and the language he used made me sense that he might be the person I know..and this post is manifestation of my frustration with these unfortunate events

@ Gyanban...usually I am not...these two are only fair weather friends and had good share of both....and for these petty post they are fine ok but what if someone calls you motherf*** and keep challenging you to tell him about his whereabouts..these type of people I am dealing with now..and I do have a sinking feeling that I know this person...

Nalini Hebbar said...

I got an awful comment yesterday that I deleted and reported. The site quoted had no navi bar so I had to go to blogger.com to report abuse. I think he/she uses a blog to sell self

Tarun Mitra said...

@ Nalini..thanks for sharing your experience...but this guy seems to following me...

Tavish Chadha said...

Hey tarun...these things happen buddy... it does irritate when ppl do such stuff... i suggest u start moderating the comments... u can safely avoid this guy(asuming its a guy) then...


Cheers!
Tavish
Latest blog post: Terror Stirkes India again

Tarun Mitra said...

@ Tavish...actually I have...and u can assume he is guy not a man :)

Mridula said...

We can live with comment moderation. Take your time.

Tarun Mitra said...

@ Mridula...I myself don't like moderation but was having too much of it..

Parth J Dave said...

Hey Tarun,

This is my first time here! All I can say is, comments are part and parcel of a blogger's life. The situation that you are facing is a little different.. you can either confront that person and give him some piece of your mind or you can ignore him completely.. And don't let those obscene and inappropriate comments affect your state of mind.

Good that you have enabled comment moderation, it surely helps! :)

ALL THE BEST!

Yayaver said...

Some people don't have guts to say in the front and even hide the truth. They hide this by abusive language... ok, its your blog and not only free voice but fair voice should get respect.

Tarun Mitra said...

Hey Parth,

Thanks for stopping by. Comments are part and parcel I agree to that..I love to give him (and have to some extent) given my piece of mind, but anything above that would be beyond the level of decency which I wish to maintain while communicating in public forum..

It is affecting me because I wished my blog to be a place of discussion and debate...a little bit of cussing, accusation is acceptable but personal vendetta based on mindless logic is beyond comprehension..

Tarun Mitra said...

Yayaver..yes he/she doesn't have the guts...tell me in face? Why you hide yourself? my question is just that

Reader Wil said...

Hi Tarun! Your post about the tigres was excellent. I read it. Don't be annoyed by Dickheads. They are not worth thinking about . I also like good debates, though at this moment I am too tired of all kind of other things in my personal life. Keep your beautiful thoughts and ideas, and if possible: share them! Thanks for your visit!

Megha said...

Thankfully I have faced such non-sense mails or comments till now. Web is sometimes very helpful and sometimes equally bad...hope moderation helps

Arif Bukan Kyai said...

I also do not like if the "culture" that spam is also carried by the blogger friends that "less" responsible. know from my greetings. small blogger from Indonesia

Doli said...

hmm I dont mind moderation in comments :) Hope that fellow goes away!

Tarun Mitra said...

@ Reader Wil...Thanks..a lot and I will do visit often..

@ Megha..that will not faced :P...hopefully...

@ Arif...thanks for stopping by..It is very bad and irresponsible...Take my greetings

@ Doli...I too hope, but want to know who is he...